As 2013 draws to a close, I will be posting a five part series of things that I’ve learned from the past year or so through my own experiences, or observing the experiences of my friends and family.
Let’s just say it’s been educational.
- Mr. Not-Right-Now is totally a thing, but it doesn’t take much to make him Mr. Wrong.
- Appearances aren’t everything, but the right outfit can change your whole outlook.
- It’s awkward, but let people set you up.
- You need to go grocery shopping on at least a semi-regular basis. You’re an adult, you can’t just eat peanut butter toast or instant oatmeal three times a day.
- It’s okay to make the first move.
- The successes of others do not diminish yours in any way, so be genuinely happy for them.
- You will never please everyone. Don’t waste your energy trying.
- Statistically speaking, first impressions are crucial. It takes thirteen positive interactions with someone to counteract one negative interaction.
- Never be the drunkest person at the party.
- It seems straight forward, but always spend less than you make. Even if it’s $10 less.
- People may not remember what you did or what you said, but they will always remember how you made them feel.
- Make a point to take care of your friendships before they need repairing.
- Don’t rush into anything. Take time to assess the situation, understand the risks, and breathe.
- Eat your peas. They’re good for you.
- Ask questions. It shows that you’re interested and can take initiative, and they break any awkward silence.
- It’s okay to fake it until you make it. Unless you’re faking medical knowledge. That’s probably illegal.
- Have dreams, and work towards achieving them, even if it’s only a little bit at a time.
- Take small victories where you can get them.
- It’s critical to take control of your emotions before they take control of you.
- An insane person will do the same thing over and over and expect different results. So will a drunk person.
- Counting your blessings and everything you have to be thankful for is an instant cure to a pity party.
- Sometimes you have to accept no as an answer.
- It’s ok to not know what you’re doing.
- You can give someone as much time and space as you possibly can, and sometimes even that’s not enough.
- Take the time to figure yourself out. Deal with the major overlying issues of your person, so when something traumatic happens, you’ll know what you need to do to get on with your life, like making a list of everything you’ve learned.
Happy New Year, everybody! I wish a happy and healthy 2014 to all my readers.